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Child-to-Parent Abuse: Understanding a Hidden Form of Family Violence
Introduction and Definition
Child-to-parent abuse, sometimes called child-to-parent violence or CPV, is a form of family abuse in which a child uses harmful behaviors to control, intimidate, or dominate a parent or caregiver. These behaviors can be physical, emotional, psychological, verbal, financial, or coercive in nature. While it is most commonly discussed in relation to adolescents, adult children can also be abusive toward their parents, particularly when dependency, unresolved family conflict, or mental health and substance issues are involved.
This type of abuse is often hidden and underreported. Many parents feel deep shame, guilt, or fear about admitting that their own child is hurting them. Others worry about being judged as bad parents or fear legal consequences for their child. As a result, child-to-parent abuse tends to remain invisible, misunderstood, and minimized, even though its impact on parents can be severe and long-lasting.
Understanding why this abuse happens, how it manifests, and what parents can do is essential for breaking the cycle and offering meaningful support to affected families.