Wednesday, December 20, 2017

Are You in A Situationship?

By Barrington H. Brennen

Are you in a situationship? Years ago, when I first heard the word “situationship,” I thought it was a made-up word by someone who did not know better. But it really isn’t. Situationship is a relationship that is not really a relationship in the traditional sense. One author says it is “a relationship that has no label on it... like a friendship but more than a friendship but not quite a relationship.” Oops! That’s confusing. Another writer says “a situationship is any problematic relationship characterized by one or more unresolved, interpersonal conflicts, usually confused with dating.”

A situationship is not healthy in the long run. In many cases someone gets hurt emotionally. It is perhaps like “friends with benefits” but you are not really friends. It is people having a reason to get together but no reason to commit to each other. A situationship can also be when a man and woman are “courting” but neither party understands the status of the relationship. These kinds of “relationships” last long and end in pain. I have observed that there are a few situationships that end in marriage and that is when the confusion gets worse. One wakes up wondering “what am I doing here?”  Read more >>